STOP BLAMING YOUR PARENTS. GIVE IT UP. STOP. LET IT GO! May 30, 2012 by Kute Blackson Now. Your parents owe you nothing. They have already given you everything… Life itself. They did the best the knew how to at the time, given the resources they had. When you stop making them responsible for what you feel today, you access your power to really live. You parents OWE you nothing today. They gave you the most amazing gift of birth and life. They don’t OWE you respect, apologies or money. When you can own this, you free yourself and are no longer dependent on them for your happiness. You cut the umbilical cord and become free to create a life you choose, rather than being at the effect of your past. Each moment you hold onto resentment, anger, blame about the past, you are killing your present. What happened is done and nothing you do or say now will change what happened. It is done. Often we refuse to let go and hold onto the anger at our parents because we feel dignified in doing so. They didn’t give us what we wanted. They weren’t there for us in the way we needed. They abused us, beat us, abandoned us, manipulated us, molested us or were mean to us. Yes, you are right. They were not right or justified in what they did. However: Do you want to be right or free? Is being right making you happy? Is holding onto being right changing them? Each moment you hold onto the resentment, you keep yourself stuck in a prison of victimhood. You are not responsible for what happened to you as a child. It happened. You were young back then. But now, today, you are responsible for what you choose to do. You are responsible today as to whether you hold onto the anger or let it go. You might say “But my mother or father is wrong!” and you might be quite correct. However, you cannot change them. The only power you have is over yourself. Trying to change your parents or make them give you what you wanted is a great recipe for suffering! Living your life trying to prove how wrong they were won’t make it right. Accept what they were, are and are not.